HOMOPHOBIA: HOW WE ALL PAY THE PRICE edited by Warren J. Blumenfeld (BEACON
8281) "A truly inspiring and much needed book that looks at all the
implications of homophobia (family relationships, teen suicide, AIDS policy,
gay bashing, etc.) and how society can change for the benefit of us all, gay
and straight.  Especially useful for counselors and activists, it's also
fascinating reading for anyone."  "Invaluable," says Martin Duberman.  "It can
help open our eyes ... and prevent needless and tragic suffering," adds Beth
Winship, "Ask Beth" columnist.  This sounds like exactly what you're looking
for.  Ask A Different Light for a rush shipment (800-343-4002)

You might also contact Parents & Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) for
their experiences.  I've heard their speakers talk of the price their kids
paid because of the perceived lack of support.  Sometimes the kids even paid
with their lives. 

For group exercises, try the Hetrick-Martin Institute for the Protection of
Lesbian & Gay Youths (212-633-8020).  I've had trainings from them and many of
their presentations involve participatory exercises. 

Various other resources include:
1) ACLU Lesbian & Gay RIghts Project 212-944-9800  ext 545
2) Gay & Lesbian Advocates &  Defenders 617-426-1350
3) Human Rights Campaign Fund 202-628-4160
4) Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund 212-995-8585 (IMO, a good source)
5) National Gay & Lesbian Task Force 202-332-6483 (specializes in homophobia)
6) National Gay Rights Advocate 415-863-3624
7) GLAAD/NYC (San Fran has another number)  212-966-1700 (specializes in
   public perceptions)

I have a couple of good articles that may prove helpful.  Among them are a NY
Times Science article (front page of the Science section) on the roots of
homophobia, a Journal of Social Work piece on the Challenge of Homophobia, and
a very recent Journal of NIH (National Institutes of Health) article titled
"Fear and Loathing in the US Military: Psychological Explanations for
Homophobia."  This last reference lists these as sources:

1) COMING OUT UNDER FIRE: THE HISTORY OF GAY MEN AND WOMEN IN WWII by Allan
Berube.  Along the same lines, you might want to do research on the amount of
money the military wastes to train and then discharge a gay soldier.  It
amounts to several million dollars ayear I believe.

2) "Interpersonal contact and heterosexuals' attitudes toward gay men: results
from a national survey," by GM Herek and EK Glunt.  J. Sex Res. (in press)

3) "Myths about sexual orientation: a lawyer's guide to social science
research," by GM Herek.   Law and Sexuality 1, 133 (1991).