I could go on for HOURS about Compuserve, but I'll cut to the chase:

Try the following on Compuserve:

GO ISSUES, Section 17, Lesbian and Gay Politics
GO HSX-100, Section 4, Gay Alliance
GO HSX-100, Section 14, Living with AIDS
GO HSX-200, Section 5, Bi-ways
GO HSX-200, Section ?, Young Gay Adults
GO HSX-200, Section 10, Lesbian and Gay Adults
GO HSX-200, Section ?, Genderline
[this is from memory--I may have some of the titles wrong...]

Also, CB Channel 33 is active for anyone who is into that kinda 
interactive stuff.  There is also a hidden Lesbian section, but I don't 
know where it is.  The women in ISSUES may be able to help you there.

See ya!